At what age do most men lose their virginity?
June 13, 2011 Leave a comment
Virginity for boys is a very interesting chapter. But what is virginity anyway? The dictionary defines it as “the state of being pure, unsullied or untouched”. Beautifully put, a virgin is someone who is spotlessly clean and has not defiled their body through sexual intercourse with another person, animal or beast.
Uganda harbours a few male virgins because many have already lost their innocence, some through means beyond their own initiative. Male virginity holds a special significance and should also be valued. A survey carried out among youths revealed that we have very few virgin boys.
24-year-old Mwine of Bukoto confessed to have lost his virginity in his third year at the university: “I totally knew nothing about sex, the girl who broke my virginity was so impressed and couldn’t believe she had seduced a virgin. Until we broke up, she respected me,” Mwine said, adding that many of his friends are still virgins.
Boys lose their virginity as early as 13. In reply to when and how many lost their virginity, it was interesting to know that some have no regrets whatsoever.
“I lost it and have no regrets,” says Moses, a canteen attendant in Mitchell Hall. “It was at an early age in primary school, in the bush when we were coming from school. It was painful but I was excited because at last I had done it,” he says.
Like Moses, the crave for adventure to experiment what sex is all about leads lots of young souls into losing the desirable chastity.
“I sat next to this girl in one Afro-Stone variety show in the main hall and we were friends by the time the show ended. One weekend, we went dancing at Club Silk. The booze and dancing was too much and the following morning, I was a virgin no more,” says Kenneth, now a secondary school teacher in Kampala.
At least Kenneth was an adult when he lost his virginity, but some boys have surrendered their purity to housemaids at a tender age.
“I think I was 14 when the housemaid lay on the bed and forced me on top of her. It was during the holiday and our parents were always away,” says Ivan.
Unfortunately, many do not use condoms the first time and are therefore open to sexually transmitted diseases such as the fatal HIV. This is basically the result of what Ivan of university called, “a question of gentle rape”.
“Man, this babe comes to your room clad in a hot mini, smelling heavenly! Then she sits on your bed and keeps turning and sighing. That’s how I lost my virginity – I didn’t even use a condom, the seduction was too much to resist,” he said.
The real question however is when one is supposed to lose his virginity. Those talked to said there is no age limit, that sex comes spontaneously, “Your friends are having it. They say it is okay and you don’t want to seem dumb, so you go out and have a bite of the forbidden fruit,” cheeky Brian said.
There are those whose first experience was, coincidentally, with a virgin partner . “My first time was with a virgin, a neighbour on whom I had a crush. Because we ‘liked’ each other, we tried to make out as teens, but it didn’t work out, though I always imagined it in my dreams,” says Junior, who finished university last year.
The first time is always an unforgettable story for the men. The youth believe that virginity today is impossible.
“People have sex in nightclubs…people have sex everywhere. Virginity at campus, and for men? No!” exclaimed Stephen, an education student at local University. He said innocents fall under the spell of horny women.
“I got saved after losing my virginity. I felt I had lost my sacredness, I felt used…we had not used condoms and above all, the girl was not even a virgin,” lamented Allan. “But I have since learnt to abstain, God has forgiven me and I know He will choose the best wife for me,” he says.
The sad thing is that virginity has no spare part. Once lost, always lost. Doctors have made it clear that the first time a person has sex is when they lose their virginity. Those who lost it said they were driven by the fear to confess to their mates that they are virgins lest they were laughed at. Girls even worsen the situation when they expect regular sex from their boyfriends.
Nevertheless, more University students believe they can “re-virginise” themselves and have signed True Love Waits cards with words, “I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, my country, my friends, my future mate, and my future children to be sexually pure until the day I give myself only to my marriage partner in a covenant marriage relationship!” And they are living true to this commitment.
Remember Jesus forgave the woman caught committing adultery by telling her to go and sin no more. Likewise, guys can opt to sin no more by abstaining.
Thanks to daily Monitor.